Category: Celebrations

A pompous affair

 In India, celebrations be it wedding, festivals or any occasion of joy has always been a pompous affair, an affair with lots and lots of fun, extravaganza, entertainment. Along with these, for the hosts it is also a depiction of richness and wealth in various forms, right from booking a lavish place for the celebrations to giving an unique and more important, costly gift(s) to the guests; anything that makes their function, an event that remains in everyone’s mind for a very long time and is quoted as an epitome of lavishness.

Unfortunately, nobody thinks about the flipside of this entire pompous affair; these affairs which result in unhealthy competition which sadly involves people who are not so affluent, disturbing the peace of the surroundings and wastage.

Here is an example –

Satvik and Sandhya became proud parents of a girl child after 12 long years of their marriage. As expected, they and their family were overjoyed. After 3 months of the baby birth, both families decided to have a naming ceremony. Naming ceremony is a Hindu event of officially giving an infant a name which sticks onto the kid for the whole lifetime. Both families being affluent decided to make this rare occasion a memorable event, not only for themselves but also for those who attend the function, thereby spending money like water.

A lavish hall in a posh locality was booked. A record number of people were invited. Kgs of gold and silver jewelry was bought exclusively for the 3 month baby (not sure if the baby would feel bad if the amount of gold and silver was any less). Lots of gifts were bought for the guests. Catering services were booked.

The auspicious day arrived. Baby was given the holy bath and then dressed in a beautiful kanjeevaram lehenga. Then the baby was adorned with gold necklace, gold chain, gold earnings, gold anklets, practically gold everywhere on the body.

The ceremony began in the hall booked. There were loud fireworks as if celebrations were in direct proportion with the noise produced by these fireworks; more the noise, more the happiness. Kanjeevaram sarees and gold ornaments clad women, men in Kanjeevaram dhoti, kurta with gold chains and rings and kids again in gold jewelry and kanjeevaram dress started pouring in along with boxes with gift wraps. Some of them who didn’t get their gifts wrapped started to open their gifts and compare it with their neighbors and feel contented that their gift is better than their neighbors’.

The ceremony got over and kid was named ‘Sugandha’. It was time to give the gifts to the baby. Close relatives had no choice but to give, as you guessed it right, GOLD!!! ; Some more gold to the baby. The baby didn’t seem particularly happy seeing gold as much as it was seeing some toy gifted, wonder why.. 😛 

Now comes the most interesting part. Yes, food…. The lunch started with serving some payasam on the banana leaf followed by some sort of a halwa in a platic cup. Then came some rotti and chutney, three varieties of rice a little while later. This was followed by badam milk in a plastic cup, vegetable biryani, dates barfi, another variety of payasam, some fried papads, pooris and much more and ended thankfully with plain rice and rasam  followed by  plain rice and curd. While leaving, each of the guest was given a nice gift.

While all the above said is a way for Satvik and Sandhya’s family to celebrate their happiness, they are innocuously setting a wrong precedence.

  • Their uninhibited show of lavishness and wealth in each and every small thing sets expectations in others to try and do something more flamboyant. The outcome would be disastrous if the people, on whom these expectations are set, are not so well off. They might end up in a swirl of debts from which they might never be able to recover.
  • Loud noises, may it be from the fireworks or from the music is always hazardous to health. There may be people who are old or weak-hearted in and around the place of celebration. Nobody has any rights to be happy at someone else’s cost.
  • The worst effect of all these brags is the wastage of food, especially in a country which ranks 2nd in child malnutrition globally where 47% of the kids are under nourished.  Either varieties of food can be cut down i.e. instead of having 4-5 types of sweets or 4 types of rice, there can be 2 – 3 sweets and 1 – 2 types of rice. Also, food needs to be made considering the approximate number of guests. There is no point cooking food for 700 people when the number of guests is well under 500. This reduces the wastage of food, which by some means can save the life of another kid.
  •  Usage of plastic can be very well avoided. In a big banana leaf used to serve food, a little space can be made for the halwa and a steel glass can be used for badam milk. This reduces the addition of non-degradable material into the world there-by avoiding some pollution.

Everyone wants to celebrate their happiness, especially one that has come after a long wait. But candid show of wealth and wasting food is not the only means of rejoicing.

Let us try to be innovative and find some better ways of celebration… 🙂


Yuga Yugadi kaledaru, yugadi marali baruthide

This is one of the melodies of yesteryear Kannada movie “Kula Vadu” which means, “Ages and ages will go past, but yugadi keeps coming back again and again”

Today is Yugadi, a festival which marks the new beginning….

Yugadi, as it is called in Karnataka or Ugadi, as in Tamilnadu or Vishu, as in Kerala or Baisakhi, for Punjabis or Bihu for Assamese marks the beginning of new year for we, Indians.

Well, again there is a variation regarding the time when this festival is celebrated. Some parts of India celebrate it during mid-March whereas rest of them during mid-April.

For most parts of Karnataka(like Bangalore, Mysore), Maharastra and Andhra Pradesh where people follow the lunar calendar (based on the cycles of the moon), Ugadi falls on the first day of Chaitra month, while others like people of Udupi, Mangalore in Karnataka, Tamil Nadu, Kerala, West Bengal, Punjab and Assam, who follow solar calendar (based on the position of the earth on its revolution around the sun) celebrate Ugadi on the first day of the Mesha month.

Hence Ugadi comes back twice every year…..

or may be thrice…. ????

because for Bengalis, Pohela Boishakh, and for people of  undivided Dakshin Kannad (Udupi and Mangalore), Yugadi is celebrated tomorrow…. 🙂

One thing, here we can observe is,

“In spite of all these diversity even to a level of dates on which a festival is celebrated, we are still One Country”

Wishing all my tamil and bengali friends, a very happy and prosperous new year

It’s a Silver!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How quickly the times moves on!!!!!!

It seems yesterday, when I was opening my eyes in this big beautiful ocean of blogging and learning to swim amidst big, big fishes and whales called friends, who were and are the champs of blogging…. 🙂

Today, this small fish of the blogging ocean is going to swim for the 25th time…..

I still remember the day 03rd Aug 09, when I was talking to HP, rambling about my boring life and urge to do something new, but having no idea on what to do….. It was then, he suggested me to start blogging…. and that was how an interest to rant on-line was born….

But still there was a problem…. since there was too many blog sites and it was only me who was blogging, there was a confusion on which one to choose from…. It was when Mr Poor Kid (PK) came to help…. he suggested to start blabbering on wordpress…. so that was how “SERENETIMES” was born….

I payed back to HP and PK by dedicating quite a few posts to them…. Hope they remember…. 😛

From then on, I have written many posts with topics varying from something casual like Smile Or Not To Smile!!!!???? or Highly Effective Lead…. YES Or NO???? to some serious topics like Children’s Day???? or Wrongs And Rights

Out of the 24 posts till now, my personal favorites happen to be

1.Bourbon Ad…. In Rajani.. Err.. Redthil Istyle

2.Recession Upshot – In Words Of Hercules And Scorpio

3.Highly Effective Lead…. YES Or NO????

4.After 30 Years…..

5.Why People Cannot Accept Change?


But of all these, the best one, which made me “famous” in this blog world is undoubtedly an unanimously

Bourbon Ad…. In Rajani.. Err.. Redthil Istyle

Thanks to thalai for making me think so creative…. 😉 I promise you, I will come with the sequel pretty soon…. 😀

I would like to thank everyone who were direct/indirect part of my posts, for having taken them sportively and given your valuable comments….

Hope you guys enjoy reading my posts in future as well!!!!