Category: Thoughts


A pompous affair

 In India, celebrations be it wedding, festivals or any occasion of joy has always been a pompous affair, an affair with lots and lots of fun, extravaganza, entertainment. Along with these, for the hosts it is also a depiction of richness and wealth in various forms, right from booking a lavish place for the celebrations to giving an unique and more important, costly gift(s) to the guests; anything that makes their function, an event that remains in everyone’s mind for a very long time and is quoted as an epitome of lavishness.

Unfortunately, nobody thinks about the flipside of this entire pompous affair; these affairs which result in unhealthy competition which sadly involves people who are not so affluent, disturbing the peace of the surroundings and wastage.

Here is an example –

Satvik and Sandhya became proud parents of a girl child after 12 long years of their marriage. As expected, they and their family were overjoyed. After 3 months of the baby birth, both families decided to have a naming ceremony. Naming ceremony is a Hindu event of officially giving an infant a name which sticks onto the kid for the whole lifetime. Both families being affluent decided to make this rare occasion a memorable event, not only for themselves but also for those who attend the function, thereby spending money like water.

A lavish hall in a posh locality was booked. A record number of people were invited. Kgs of gold and silver jewelry was bought exclusively for the 3 month baby (not sure if the baby would feel bad if the amount of gold and silver was any less). Lots of gifts were bought for the guests. Catering services were booked.

The auspicious day arrived. Baby was given the holy bath and then dressed in a beautiful kanjeevaram lehenga. Then the baby was adorned with gold necklace, gold chain, gold earnings, gold anklets, practically gold everywhere on the body.

The ceremony began in the hall booked. There were loud fireworks as if celebrations were in direct proportion with the noise produced by these fireworks; more the noise, more the happiness. Kanjeevaram sarees and gold ornaments clad women, men in Kanjeevaram dhoti, kurta with gold chains and rings and kids again in gold jewelry and kanjeevaram dress started pouring in along with boxes with gift wraps. Some of them who didn’t get their gifts wrapped started to open their gifts and compare it with their neighbors and feel contented that their gift is better than their neighbors’.

The ceremony got over and kid was named ‘Sugandha’. It was time to give the gifts to the baby. Close relatives had no choice but to give, as you guessed it right, GOLD!!! ; Some more gold to the baby. The baby didn’t seem particularly happy seeing gold as much as it was seeing some toy gifted, wonder why.. 😛 

Now comes the most interesting part. Yes, food…. The lunch started with serving some payasam on the banana leaf followed by some sort of a halwa in a platic cup. Then came some rotti and chutney, three varieties of rice a little while later. This was followed by badam milk in a plastic cup, vegetable biryani, dates barfi, another variety of payasam, some fried papads, pooris and much more and ended thankfully with plain rice and rasam  followed by  plain rice and curd. While leaving, each of the guest was given a nice gift.

While all the above said is a way for Satvik and Sandhya’s family to celebrate their happiness, they are innocuously setting a wrong precedence.

  • Their uninhibited show of lavishness and wealth in each and every small thing sets expectations in others to try and do something more flamboyant. The outcome would be disastrous if the people, on whom these expectations are set, are not so well off. They might end up in a swirl of debts from which they might never be able to recover.
  • Loud noises, may it be from the fireworks or from the music is always hazardous to health. There may be people who are old or weak-hearted in and around the place of celebration. Nobody has any rights to be happy at someone else’s cost.
  • The worst effect of all these brags is the wastage of food, especially in a country which ranks 2nd in child malnutrition globally where 47% of the kids are under nourished.  Either varieties of food can be cut down i.e. instead of having 4-5 types of sweets or 4 types of rice, there can be 2 – 3 sweets and 1 – 2 types of rice. Also, food needs to be made considering the approximate number of guests. There is no point cooking food for 700 people when the number of guests is well under 500. This reduces the wastage of food, which by some means can save the life of another kid.
  •  Usage of plastic can be very well avoided. In a big banana leaf used to serve food, a little space can be made for the halwa and a steel glass can be used for badam milk. This reduces the addition of non-degradable material into the world there-by avoiding some pollution.

Everyone wants to celebrate their happiness, especially one that has come after a long wait. But candid show of wealth and wasting food is not the only means of rejoicing.

Let us try to be innovative and find some better ways of celebration… 🙂

CTRL+F

Have you ever felt the desperate need for answers to following questions?

  • What am I doing?
  • What is the purpose of my life?
  • Am I doing what I am intended to do in my life?
  • Why am I here?
  • Am I invisible?
  • What do I want?

Sounds soul-searching and spiritual, but this is what most of us feel, a kind of delusion which needs to be broken at some point or the other… Trying to find answers via this post.. Here are some situations which might lead to some serious CTRL+F within us..

Kate has been working in one of the top IT companies for last 6+ years. A freshman out of school, geared up, all ready to take up the big bang world of professionals. Initially everything was good, new things to learn every day, every month, every year for 5 years.  She has been (un??)lucky to have got to do something new every day for such a long time in a world where things become banal due to repetitiveness in work within an year. But the flip side to it was Kate never got an opportunity to master anything. Her ability to quickly adapt to new technologies which was a boon from organization perspective became a bane for individual growth. At one point in time, after 5 years, she gets bored of learning and learning and learning. She wants to settle down with one technology and master it which her current job profile does not provide her an opportunity with. She is stuck up in one place, does not have skills to match up to her experience and hence cannot venture out. As a result, she is getting more and more flustered and dejected with each passing day and tries to CTRL+F “What am I doing?”, “Why am I here?”

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Kate’s problem lies majorly with her being in one place for too long. To add to that, the frustration of not being able to move out due to the fact that she knows little about so many things is letting her down. One probable solution to this would be to stop learning!!! Yes, stop learning so many things. Knowing many things is good only when you know one or two things better than others. It would be an added advantage when you know not only know a particular subject A very well, but also know B, C and D. Usual method is to learn A splendidly and then focus on B, C or D. In Kate’s situation, she can try doing the opposite. Now that she knows something about A, B, C and D, she can think of which on these interests her the most, let us say B. she can start to work and learn more on B. She can also try a different company based on her knowledge of B since sometimes change of place of work brings a brighter change in life.

—————————————————————————————————————————————————————————- Amanda has a high profile job is one of the top firms. She is regarded as one of the highly successful individual in her profession. But she has one worry. Marriage!!! Yes, she is 30 and unmarried. She is also a strong (??) individual who does not like to show her emotions to others. She is not very keen on getting married, and thinks marriage might be a required affair in one’s life but is not mandatory. This is what she thinks most of the time, but whenever she sees her friends happily married, enjoying life with spouses and kids, gossiping about their in-laws there is a sting in her heart and she longs to have that experience. She feels she has lost the sense in life.  At these times, she CTRL+F “What do I want?”

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This is a trickier problem since this is not in an individual control. Some get married soon, some get married late and some probably never get married. There are situations and destiny which plays a role here. What Amanda should do is not to hide her emotions and her pains behind her “strong” character, and to vent out her pains in front of someone or something animate or inanimate. A good uninhibited wail over one’s sorrow will definitely make them feel better. Having said that, she should not lose hope or relent on her choices when it comes to finding a right life partner as it is the hope of finding light at the end of the tunnel is what keeps a man alive and determined to find the end of the tunnel.

—————————————————————————————————————————————————————————- Jules is the only child of her parents. She was a smart student in her school. She is a hard working employee. But, in all these she lacks one thing which she yearns for – Undivided attention, a sense of being given first preference over others. At home, even after being the only child, she does not get much of a preference. Her father is indifferent, nothing bothers him much, and her mother prefers her cousin over Jules and constantly compares how her cousin is better than Jules. In office, she is almost inconspicuous with her boss and her peers not even noticing her during meetings or after.  All this makes Jules CTRL+F for “Am I invisible?”

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Jules problem in life is that she is suffering from inferiority complex. She thinks she needs others feedback about her to determine whether she is good or not. She thinks if others think she is good, she is good; if they think she is useless, she is. She is an attention savvy and needs someone to notice her always. This is not bad and is not something which one cannot expect from others. But some of us are not so lucky enough to garner all the attention we need. At these times, we need to understand the fact that, we are not born to be popular and that popularity is not the determining factor for one’s success or failure. Others opinion never matter. One who cannot praise you when you do well does not hold a chance to blame you when you do something wrong. So what Jules should do is to forget who cares for her and who doesn’t and just live up to her expectations.

—————————————————————————————————————————————————————————- Phillipa is born and brought up in a middle class family, a family where education to the graduate level is must, followed by a prolific job in IT major which will get you good money. This has been a trend in her family, all her cousins, siblings are earning in 6 digits per month and all are placed in one or the other IT majors. Phillipa had no choice or rather never thought of any choice other than follow the family trend. As a result, she is now in an IT major earning close to a 6 digit figure. But now after completing 5 years in the IT Co, is she happy? Guess not, because more often than not, she keeps getting flustered and running off on vacation spanning for a week or two. She feels that probably she is getting frustrated because of working too long, so a vacation might be a good break. But she is now realizing the fact, that within a day or two of coming back from vacation, her foul mood is back as well. She is not sure of what in this whole world interests her. She feels even if she tries to do something new, she loses interest in a little while. She keeps wondering whether she has made any mistake following the family trend, not thinking of what she really wanted and keeps CTRL + F “What is the purpose of my life?” “Am I doing what I am intended to do in my life?”

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Phillipa’s biggest mistake is that she never thought what she wanted in life. This is probably because she has been brought up in a middle class family where more or less, the choices are definitive and limited. Every career option’s sole objective is to earn money with grace. If your option does not earn you 6 digit figures, then it is not much of a career option.  So she never thought, never used that brain of hers to decide what she wanted, but took whatever came in her life. Changing that, going back to square one might not be an option now, even though that is the best. She now has limited options to choose from, but she has to start thinking what is it she wants in life? Now that she has some money, can she take the risk of quitting the prolific job and do something which interests her? Whatever she decides, she needs to think first. Think, Think, Think…..

—————————————————————————————————————————————————————————- So, above were some of the situations which we encounter at some point in life. This article was an attempt to find answers to some of the issues which drive us crazy at times. But as the saying goes, easier said than done. At least let us make a start and see where it takes us. Hope this helps….

Depressed Minds

In today’s fast forward world, too much of stress, strain lead to a state of low mood and aversion from work. Without any reasons, we tend to feel sad, irritated, easily annoyed and tired…. Why is this so? and what is this called?

Yes, as the subject says, this is Depression….

This article is not about heavy duty topics like

What is Depression?

What are the different reasons behind depression?

How do depressed minds work?

or for that matter,

How to cope up with depression?

This a light weight post on what are the various “interesting” things which people do when they are depressed….

To begin with, as one can anticipate, a person will go into social isolation or in simple terms loneliness… yes, it is observed that when your mind is tired, you tend to seclude yourself from the world, try to calm down and think about the possible things which could have been the reasons behind the depression…

Or, as an alternative, if a person chooses not to seclude oneself from the society or family or is not able to isolate oneself, he/she most of the time end up being annoyed and frustrated with the family members and at time reprimand them without any mistakes of theirs…. If the family is congenial enough to understand the turbulence in the person’s mind, the problem is still cope-able, but if they are trenchant, then the problem mounts up to its maximum height possible….

After this serious impacts of depression, here is one appetizing counter-effect…. People tend to increase their lust for food. They start eating rapaciously just to keep their minds off “those thoughts”…. And interestingly it is seen that the most “loved” food at these times is unbelievably Chocolates and ice creams…. People eat hoards and hoards of these without realizing the quantity eaten…. and it is also proved by certain scientific research that chocolates are one of the good anti-depressants.

Yummy!! isn’t it?

Apart from all these, by my personal experience, I have discovered another anti-depressant, which is “Work, Work and work” your way out….. Yes, at times when I have been depressed, I have felt the urge to work so hard, that I forget the thoughts and people which/who are responsible for my foul mood.

And trust me it works!!! I feel so relieved and so light in the mind, free of all thoughts…. and yes my work is also done, with great quality as my mind is totally focussed on the work….

But as everything, there is always a flip-side to this as well…. I got reprimanded from friends/lead for unnecessarily working and straining myself. How many ever times I say, I did all this to come out of my frustrations, it is in vain….

Hope this post will make them understand…..

THE HUMAN

How many times we have seen a blind man struggling to cross the road or trying to board a bus, but still no one around bother to help him out? How many times have we seen an old man or a woman tired of standing in the bus, but no one bothers to offer them a seat?

In spite of all these, we call ourselves “human” beings. What is “human”? Human means “Characteristic of humanity“. Are we really are? Or is it that other species on this earth cannot  be a “human”?

Check out the picture below.


This was a picture taken by a journalist during his visit to one of the famous temples of Bangalore, Ragigudda. Every three months once, there are these two guys, who are physically special because of their sight, come to Ragigudda. On one such occasion, they went in search of water to quench their thirst. They happened to find a tap with some difficulty, but were having problems in opening and closing the tap. People around them were moving around watching their plight but no one came to their help.

It is during this time, from nowhere a monkey chipped in, opened the tap for the guys to allay their thirst, waited till they drank the water, filled its stomach as well and above all, remembered to close the tap before leaving….

Now I guess thats what is called HUMAN” being.…..

I think its time for all of us to (re)think if we really qualify for “HUMAN” beings?

Wrongs and Rights

Off-late, there has been lot of things happening in life, which has made me (re)look at my view for life. Life has been going through a lot of ordeals, which most of the time, leaves me thinking what piece of this huge jig-saw puzzle called life, luck, success am I missing?

I believe its not my everyday story alone.So many of us might have the same kind of issues in life. So the easiest solution is to unravel this mystery of the missing piece….

Well, to start with, lets think about the various things that can go wrong….

1.One common problem is, when something is not coming our way, we start lamenting and spend all our mind,energy cribbing on what we did not get.

2.Start blaming others for our failure in accomplishing what we desired for.

3.In today’s competitive world, where we need to prove ourself every day, every moment, where we need to showcase ourselves better than all other “rats”, stress naturally gropes and not able to cope up with it leaves us in frustration.

4.Not doing something we enjoy to do, but doing something so that we, if not be the topper of rat race, but at least be in the race, which again leaves us sad and lost.

5.Constantly in the maze of worries, think, re-think and keep mulling over the failures keeps us lost in our world, longing to keep ourselves isolated from others.

6.Always trying to do something which somebody else can do easily, without realizing they are the masters of the game and we are naive.

7.Worst of all, always compare ourselves with someone who is competent and successful in his/her arena and crib on not being able to reach anywhere near them in spite of all efforts.

So after figuring out what all has gone wrong, what’s the next thing to do? Find solutions….

1.First of all, stop making the mind wander on unnecessary issues and holding onto some unwanted memories for a long time.
2.What others think of you is none of your business…. its hard to please everyone.
3.Believe in miracles…. since we are ourselves miracles. 🙂
4.Even if your boss gives you sour lime, make the most sweet juice out of it. 🙂
5.Watch something nice, humorous, feel good shows on TV.
6. Occasionally take a break from the rat race, do something which you love to do….(thats what exactly I am doing now…. :))
7.Don’t feel disheartened on failures. Just think you are destined for something more, something better and you will be the best of the pack in that.
8.Best of all, keep smiling, keep laughing even at your failures and at people who made fun of you for your incompetence, because one who can laugh at himself/herself is the person who can come out of all failures in a most convincing manner.

Once you start enjoying your life, happiness and success will follow suit….

So with all these, hope to bring a difference in my view of life and make a different person out of myself.

Every day is different and every day has so much to offer!!!! So keep having fun!!!! Life is more than what we are currently making of it today!!!!

L.I.P.O

Sometimes it so happens that you become so obsessive about people and their memories in your life, that you don’t want to part with them, you don’t want to believe that they are not a part of your life and cannot be as well…. but still you fear losing them!!!!!

What do you call  it? Love (L), Infatuation (I), Possessiveness (P) or Obsession (O)!!!!

Consider a simple situation –

Situation A – If he/she is talking to some one of opposite sex, you feel a burning sensation in your heart…. What do you call this?

If this is slightly confusing, or if this is too easy to decide then lets try the following situation –

Situation B – If his/her smile at you fills your day with joy, you will feel excited, enthusiastic  through out the day…. What do you call this?

Pretty straight forward?? huh!!! ok, try this…..

Situation C – You treasure his/her possessions (which you might have accidentally landed up with), however trivial it has been to him/her…. What do you call this?

Getting  a little confused? ok, lets proceed…. lets see if it gets better or …..worse!!!!

Situation D – You think that you have heard him/her even though they are no where around. You imagine him/her in almost everyone you see…. What do you call this?

Getting little perplexed?? Let me confuse you a little more….

Situation E – If he/she is away from your sight for quite sometime, you cry your heart out, missing him/her every moment but still feel shy and intimidated to speak to them when you see them after a long time….. What do you call this?

????? final assault!!!! here is comes…..

Situation F – Even though you are completely sure that he/she can never be a part of your life and you are nothing to him/her, you still can never think of not thinking about him/her…..What do you call this?

Well, may be certain things /people are so inevitable part of your destiny, they come, they go, but need to learn how to cope up with all situations….

Again telling is easy, implementing is difficult…. still life goes on….

Thats pretty much it for now…. till we meet in the next post, keep mulling about the situations mentioned above…..

Hello World!!!!! I am BACK!!!!!!

It has been quite sometime that I have penned down anything. Its either time or topics or interest which deprived me of entering into this ‘serene world’…..

But during this weekend, with a total urge to find out the time, topic and interest, I sat down to find a suitable theme for my GRAND COMEBACK…. 😀

Last Saturday, 14th of November happens to be the birthday of our first prime minister, Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru…. popular among kids as Chacha Nehru. This day is celebrated as Children’s Day,as a tribute to Nehru’s  love for children.He believed “Children are the future of the nation.”

As a mere coincidence, happened to come across this video about a kid, who sells fans made of peacock feathers on the streets of Mumbai near the hanging gardens, but is amazingly multilingual.

He has learned all these languages, just by following the conversations of various tourists who happen to visit the place. This can be considered as his “strategy” for marketing and eventually sell his goods or as a special gift he has been bestowed by God.

But the saddest part is, he doesn’t have the privilege of attending school, and spends all his time selling fans. According to a survey done by the UN, India has the largest number of uneducated children (around 50%). Apart from this, we find a considerable number of child laborers in spite of having a ban on employment of children below 14. How many houses still have their domestic servant who is a kid? How many times have you not come across various cases of child abuse or cases of juvenile crimes  in news off late?

Our ex-president,  Dr A.P.J. Abdul Kalam mentions in one of his addresses – “Children who belong to weaker sections of our society are undernourished, and only a small percentage of them manage to complete satisfactory education. We need to think specifically for them. Education is indeed a fundamental right of every Indian child. Can we allow the situation to continue in which millions of these children are forced into life long poverty?”

Given the present situation, I wonder when will Nehru’s and Kalam’s dreams might come into reality???? But as a responsible citizen of the country, I believe its our duty to do our bit towards making a under-privileged child see a brighter tomorrow……

After 30 years…..

On the way to office, while waiting for the signal to turn green, happened to look around. Standing next to me was a lavish black Honda City. Out of curiosity, tried to sneak a look at the people inside. Much to my disappointment, happened to find a old couple, chatting deliriously unaware of what is happening around.

Even though, my interest in Honda city and its owner was ruined, another thought sparked in my mind, “What I would wish to possess, rather what I would be 30 years down the line…..”

30 years from now…. I would be somewhere in my 50s….

– I would want to be rich (owner of billions of…. (Dollars, if possible…. but rupees for sure)

– Own a lavish house in a posh locality…. (hmmm….. I can visualize that now itself :))

– Own a classy car…. (a chauffeur is a must…. I firmly believe that after owning such a swish car, its disgrace not to have chauffeur drive it, but drive it on your own…. :P)

These are all materialistic thoughts; I got after seeing the Honda city. But here is what I felt, after seeing the couple in it.

These days, most of the places, wherever we go, let it be a park or a theatre or a mall or some posh streets, we find lot of young couple walking hand in hand, whispering to each other, the girl laughing and the guy enjoying seeing his girl smiling. Most of us might be feeling or wishing for such a guy / girl in their life as well, whom they can say, “He / She is mine”, with whom you can chat about the whole world, share your thoughts, get guidance, in short a person with whom you can be happy and secure with….

But one thing we are noticing these days, is several love marriages – marriages happened after knowing each other so well, even after fully accepting both good and bad of one another are becoming so fragile. Within a year of marriage, people tend to become increasingly aggressive in their relationships, quarrels over petty issues presides concluding with the end of the relationship.

After seeing the old couple enjoying their life with each other at even this ripe age, I could wish only for one thing…..

“ Let me also enjoy my life as much as they are and much more with my life partner, bless that my partner and me can talk with each other with the same enthusiasm with which we speak when our relationship is new, bless that we at that ripe age also can walk hand in hand, discuss our thoughts, care for each other more than anything else in our lives….. even after 30 years…..”

Today, during one of the casual chats with my friends, came up a topic as to how good a lead I can be??(ok… don’t give that sarcastic look…. read on…. :P)

Of late I have been hearing lot of my colleagues’ opinion about my leading abilities, so just wanted to jot down somewhere so that I can deeply analyze 😉  my leadership skills…. hence the blog (This is also an answer to those who have a complaint that I am on a relentless mission of tarnishing their image…. NO.. I am not pledging on stopping that, but occasionally,  would tarnish even mine…. :D)

Without any modesty, I am telling, some days back, I discovered I have a hidden talent of efficiently coordinating tasks within my project. I realized that I enjoy working towards making people do the task, rather than doing it myself. I was thinking of grooming this further, in the right direction so that one day I can be a successful lead.

I had formulated a wonderful team, even had decided on the project objectives, scope and time lines. I had made a team of wonderful players, who happen to be the key performers of our organization. With great interest and enthusiasm, I told them about my plan, and asked them their opinion (now I realize, what a great mistake I did…. :()

Here are some…. trust me…. SOME of their opinions (I don’t dare to tell all of them….)

Mr MS :- So called, my mentor…. on whom I had so much of faith, whom I had helped in many difficult periods in the project, told me firmly,“If I am going to be in her project, I need to come everyday at 8A.M, work till 8 P.M and yet again be in office, the next day at 8A.M. or else get reprimanded from her. She would expect everything to be working fine at the first shot and will never give us a second chance. Hence “REJECTED”

Mr BG :- a good friend, again whom I trusted naively said (under the high influence of Mr MS…. ughh) “I completely agree with Mr MS, to add to this she would be standing at the door in the morning with a cane to beat up all her project members who come late (…. than 8 A.M)Hence “REJECTED”

Very dejected, I went to Mr SC, the poor kid, who I was sure will understand me, but….. 😦

Mr SC :- only difference between him and others, he started and ended his opinion with only one word “REJECTED”, while others were kind enough 😉 to tell me the reasons as well….

While I was conversing with Mr SC, Mr MG, who happened to overhear the talk, came to us to give his valuable opinion, and that was not overwhelming as well…. 😦

Mr MG :- “She is becoming dangerous everyday (in case he doesn’t know, I am already entitled with “DD” and my friends have dedicated me 😉 ughh, a community on Orkut called the “SOD”)…. she can be called “Phoolan Devi” of our group”…. I don’t know what have I done to scare him…. 😦

Finally not with much of hope, I went to Mr HP, my little bro…. what he said was ultimate…..

Mr HP :- “If ever she becomes the lead, rather a Gang-leader, she would have the entire team at gun point, and hypothetically if there are 18 members in her team, and by mistake if one of them fails to perform, then he/she would be gunned down and she would update her blog as “1 DOWN, 17 TO GO”….. ULTIMATE!!!!!!

After hearing all this, I was rather dejected…. or surprised…. or SHOCKED!!!! But inspite of all this, I will still work on my leadership skills and be like Mr MS 😛 one day…. Thanks all u guys for making this blog happen….

I am Calm and Quiet

Couple of days back, I happened to take one of the Just For Fun test on Facebook, it was called “Attitude Test“, the results of which portray, what kind of a person you are….

Out of curiosity, happened to take this test, the result of which,more than that its relevance in my life, was what can I say  hilarious (atleast thats what I think)…. 😛

The result was –

CALM AND QUIET (;))

  • you are the sort of person who likes to take life slowly…. just one day at a time :- 4 on 5 – patience is one thing I have learnt from my past experiences.
  • you usually know the difference between right and wrong :- 3 on 5 – More often than never, I would not know; rather I would know what is right, but don’t know the way to reach the right thing.
  • you believe in yourself :- 5 on 5 – yes….always.
  • you put yourself in other peoples shoes and see how it feels to be them and then handle a situation accordingly :- 4 on 5 perhaps – One of the other lessons, life is teaching me.
  • your attitude towards life is very positive :- 5 on 5 for sure – still expecting to see miracles happen in life. 😀
  • you are liked by all and are a great friend….the flip side is that sometimes you care too much about other people and dont do what you really wanna do. :- 4 on 5 – depends on the person (doesnot really have to be a friend) for the first part :P, for latter one, without any doubt 5 on 5. :(“

Now coming to the primary result “CALM AND QUIET” – QUIET might be quite true (4 0n 5)…. but definitely not CALM….(1 on 5) 🙂

Guess most of the readers will agree to this….